If you've seen that episode of Friends where Phoebe thinks a British cheese factory owner and Monica are soul mates, you'll know the two sides of the argument clearly. When you see a well-established couple together, you may wonder if whether their seemingly natural compatibility sprouts from having a strong, deep-seated chemistry, or whether it is a testament to how much they tolerate each other's flaws and learn to appreciate each other's differences.
It's hard for me to say whether I believe in fate bringing people together or fate bringing good things to my doorstep. Think of it like agnosticism, replacing God with the concept of destiny. (I am agnostic in the common sense of the word as well, though.) I just don't know.
On the one hand, I believe in working hard at relationships, tolerating people and obstacles in my life, from my best friend's suppression of his inner feelings when I ask how he is, through my mother's repetitive reminders to maintain my own good health and safety, to the long, hard hours of work I put in to my summer job to afford myself an iPhone.
On the other hand, there are friends that I have that are so chemically compatible with me that it's incredibly difficult for me to say that that came about by random chance. There is no need to work hard at anything, because it naturally works so well. How is it possible that these people who have been brought up differently, in a different place, by different parents, can get along with me so unbelievably well right from the getgo?
I fluctuate. Sometimes I believe there are ghosts watching our every move. Sometimes, I think we just die. Sometimes, I have faith in an almighty God, and I really, really do a few good deeds, in fear of going to Hell. And at other times, I think microbiological and astrological evidence prove that there certainly is no Lord. And sometimes, when I'm thinking about the close friends I've had, or the good life I have, I believe that that has to be fate - in no way did I earn that, it came to me like a blessing from God. And at other times, I think destiny is a load of poppycock. I worked hard to get to where I am, I made an effort to keep all my relationships healthy and intact.
Destiny. What an interesting idea.
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I'm not sure that I believe in destiny. I'd chafe against the notion that someone or something was setting out my future, rather than it being my own choice (or fault). It seems to remove personal responsibility.
'They' say, "Things happen for a reason." I met my best friend (of 23+ years) when his brother (a college friend of mine) and I thought it would be a good idea to set him (bf) up with my cousin. Got that? lol!
They hated each other on sight and bf and I started talking. We got along from the very first minute.
How I met his brother was strange too. I had to drop out of college for a semester due to a long recovery from emergency surgery. I met him when I retook a computer class. If I hadn't had that surgery, I wouldn't have met the brother. If I hadn't met the brother I wouldn't have had the idea to put my cousin together with his brother. And I wouldn't have had one of the best friends I've ever had in my life.
Personally, I think it was "meant to be". Some things you work hard for, some things just fall into your lap.
yeah im not sure about the whole fate thing.. i believe that we all just come together... and it's up to us to build those relationships or not.
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